Last time, I talked about dealing with jealousy. Today I will tell you from observation and experience, how you can tell if someone is jealous of you. If you know the problem, you have a slightly better chance of fixing it, right?
In Real Life
These are signs you can pick up in real life if someone’s jealous of you.
Making fun of Achievements
Did you get a good grade, or achieve something huge, only to have people say how stupid it is. I’ve heard of this often: When a kid gets a good grade, sometimes he/she may be made fun of, like being called a geek. Think about it: If people weren’t green with envy, why would they want to put down someone for achieving something great? Don’t we all secretly want to do well?
Do you always feel left out and ignored by this person? Someone who is jealous of you will go out of their way to ignore you, or say as little to you as possible (unless they’re saying something nasty) but from experience, people who are jealous don’t tend to say as much to your face, than they do behind your back.
Are they having a party, and they’ve invited almost everyone but you? That’s another sign that they’re jealous.
Are you friends with their friend?
Let’s call you A, and your friend B, and the person who’s jealous of you C. If A and C are both friends with B, but A know very little of C, then there’s a huge chance there will be some kind of jealousy stirring up between A and C.
I find that online, people are far more direct in insults, because they’re covered behind a computer screen and feel that they can say whatever they want.
Hating you for No Reason
Are you doing your thing, but someone just seem to hate you, no matter what you do? Perhaps they’re jealous of your success, and feel undignified that they don’t have the same thing going for them.
If they’re just trying to pick you apart, insult you for every little thing possible and you’ve literally done nothing to offend them (people who actively do mean things first doesn’t count), then perhaps they’re jealous. Some of the most obvious insults are about being ugly or fat.
If you feel that this person treats you differently and something isn’t right, then that’s probably true. People in real life generally don’t come to your face and insult you like they would on the internet, but that won’t stop them from being so jealous that they’d make you feel quite miserable.
Note: This is not an article about how to deal with these people. I will write that when I can figure out the right steps.